Affection is the principle that enables you to increasingly find your real self. You achieve this by originating connections with other people and then communicating to explore those bonds. The more associated you become with the existence around you, the better your alignment with affection. The belief that you're totally separate from everybody else is simply an illusion. Consider your relationships as outside projections of the true you, and you'll recognize that the aim of each relationship is to show you how to love yourself from the inside out. If you communicate with another individual, truly you're researching the depths of your own consciousness as that's where all your relationships live. When you learn to love everybody and everything, you get aligned with your real self. There's no true difference between loving other people and loving yourself; the two are inseparable.